5/24/2023 0 Comments All good things![]() ![]() This information (including maiden name, etc.) can easily be used to steal a person’s identity.īereaved has every reason to object to this.ĭear Been There: My point was that this information is already frequently included in death notices and obituaries. Have a great morning!”ĭear Amy: “Bereaved” was furious with her husband for posting an online “tribute” to her mother, including personal information. If you’re on a walk and don’t want to be interrupted, you could respond, “It’s always nice to see you. Think of it as compassion cardio, which can be good for your heart health. Nodding, smiling and demonstrating patience are all positive qualities. We do not want to be rude, but how do we politely tell this person that we just don’t know who he is talking about?ĭear Clueless: If you broke into this monologue to say, “I’m sorry, but we don’t know that person,” your acquaintance would likely take the opportunity to explain, in detail, the stranger’s backstory. We politely nod and smile, asking a harmless question or two, while waiting for the conversation to end. ![]() That’s exactly what has been bothering me so much.”ĭear Amy: While on our daily walks, my partner and I sometimes encounter one of our casual acquaintances who soon starts to tell us about one of his friends, whom we do not know at all, in great detail. If Susan is so locked into her habit – or so dense – that she responds to this statement by offering advice, you could interrupt her: “Oops, there – you’re doing it. I’ve been looking for friendship, not advice. Say, “I’ve stopped being in touch so often because I find your advice oppressive. If you want to continue with this friendship, you should give Susan the benefit of knowing the intensity of your reaction to her unsolicited advice. Yes, you’ve tried to head her off at the pass, but that hasn’t worked and so now you are absorbing all of this explosive rage, rather than risk telling this very old friend how her behavior affects you. Your passivity has contributed to the problem. However, you don’t mention ever discussing this with Susan. Your internal reaction to all of this unsolicited advice is understandable. And if this advice is unsolicited, they are assuming that you need it, perhaps because your own judgment is flawed. Ask Amy: I look like the bad guy in the divorce because they don’t know what my ex didĭear Wanting: Hearing advice feels worse than someone merely expressing an opinion different from your own, because when someone offers advice, they are actually telling you what to do.
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